It's odd how when someone you love and are so very connected to is in a state of suspended reality... You go in and out of some kind of self preservation Buddhist induced detachment, living your life as best and earnestly as possible, but it's always there.
Then, flash back to reality moments. Convince yourself all over again that yes, this HAS happened and IS going on despite the reality of your day to day... which in your mind, you can convince yourself that it hasn't happened because your life, your child and your husband require you to remain present and attentive. Everyday. Then there are the moments when you get some down time, and it comes back like some kind of strange flashback and then you have to realize again, that yes, this is not a nightmare and you are awake.
Meanwhile, my son is learning his multiplication tables by watching PBS and playing their computer games. We also play lots of board games and games that he makes up. (Yea, he's pretty brilliant) He made up a game where there are 4 different colored crystals (actually they are magic markers) Each one represents a different power.
"One contains the power of love"
"One contains the power of slowing down"
"One contains the power of going fast"
"One contains the power of water"
In order to get the crystals back to their rightful places and release their special powers you have to perform certain tasks. For instance:
Put together a puzzle
Win a race (Sometimes they are slow races)
Win a board game
Win a memory game
Each task places a respective crystal (marker) in it's rightful place. When all for are placed, you win! Easy peazy.
Then it's back to waiting for news about Matt. Checking my computer for the update emails. This is what's going on. Sometimes we swim or go shopping or do laundry. And then I wait some more.
This is the last message I received from my niece on Weds. after Matt got is tracheotomy.
"Matt's out of surgery and it went well. Yay, Matt! Yay, surgical team!
He now has a tube in his neck instead of his mouth, so he'll be more comfortable. All his vitals look good, and he's sedated. He also finally gets to "eat" his vanilla protein drink after a long day of no food. (Why is it vanilla if it goes straight through a tube in his nose and into his stomach? I have no idea.)They removed the collar around his neck for the surgery and apparently now it can stay off. They will continue to monitor how his brain is progressing daily using a transcranial doppler. It's a very cool thingamabob that basically works like an ultrasound.If Matt is in good enough condition, his neurosurgeon would like to replace the skull and perform surgery on Matt's dislocated thoracic vertebrae next week.Thanks for all the support and positive energy.Love and hugs"
Thanks to everyone who has left sweet comments or emails or remembers Matt in their prayers. It means a lot to me.
One of my wishes today is that everyone take a deep breath and take in their reality. Love what is and who is in their lives and indulge completely in his/her conscious experience of now and enjoy the living hell out of it.