Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Request for Miracles

As per usual, I've been wanting to write for some time but just can't seem to. This happens a lot. In the interim one of my nephews, whose diapers I used to change, Matthew, has been involved in a serious accident. He's one of those larger than life characters that is hard to describe. He has the genius gene that runs on both sides of his family tree, and the showman gene that runs on our side. He's as intense and outspoken as they come and just as loving.

What happened was he was, on his way to work he ran out of gas someplace in LA. Turns out his gas gauge was broken, so anyway, he was waiting on the side of the highway for a friend to come and bring him gas. In the time it took for the friend to get there, his car was hit in the rear at high speed by another vehicle. The car rolled over several times and his spine is severed between C3 and C4 and his brain is swollen. He was was thought to be dead on the scene, but the EMTs got his heart beating again. Then we were told that he was essentially brain dead (no activity)... but then oops, there was activity. So, maybe just brain resting..? They have performed some kind of procedure to relieve the swelling and he is getting all kinds of anti inflammatories to keep that under control. We all thought the first day that they were just waiting around for the 3 day grace period till they could pronounce him brain dead (Cali law), but he keeps improving. Small improvements, but unmistakable ones. He is now trying to breath over his ventilator, which is a good sign. I think they are considering doing a trach in the event he should wake and try to rip the ventilator out. (He would so do that)

So, we've been told that a full recovery is likely too much to even hope for, but lets face it, two days ago he was "brain dead"! So now the big questions are, how long was his brain deprived of oxygen and how badly if at all was the injury to his spinal chord... sigh.

What I'd would love is if anyone out there has a major miracle story they can tell me about someone whose beat the odds. I know it happens and it happens more frequently than we know about. I want to know about it. If you have anything to share that can help me keep faith that this may have a good outcome, I'd love to hear it. I crave to hear it.

Thanks for listening.


JoJo said...

OMG I am so, so sorry to hear this. I truly hope he makes a full recovery. I know that a couple years ago there was a football player who was badly injured and they got his spine and brain cooled as quickly as possible with cold packs and cold IV fluids that the swelling wasn't as bad as it could have been and that made his chances much better. How old is your nephew?

Only time will tell and it can pass achingly slow. He may have some brain damage though, from the lack of oxygen.

Did they get the guy that smashed into his car?

Maggie May said...

Sweetheart I am so, so sorry. I will pray for your boy tonite, and pray hard. Please know I am thinking of you with love (((( )))))

Ms. Moon said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I wish I had some miracles stories for you but I don't.
Oh Mindy. I'm just so sorry.

Petit fleur said...

Jojo, Maggie, Ms Moon.

Thank you.

He seems to be holding his own for the moment. He had to have the procedure to remove parts of his skull yesterday... I guess they maxed out on the medicine which was keeping the swelling at bay. We'll see.

Thanks again.

Akannie said...

Here's all I know, littleflower...

There are amazing and wondrous things that happen in this Universe. And when it is not someone's time to leave here, they do not leave. They stay, and go on to finish their appointed rounds.

I am flinging energy and blessings about the Universe for your nephew and your family.

A book I read sometimes (ACIM) says that ..."a miracle is just a shift in perception." SEE him recovered. SEE him whole and healthy. That's what I'm going to do.

Much love, your newest follower, Annie

Petit fleur said...

Welcome Annie,

Thank you for finding me/us and for your much needed words.

At the risk of sounding woo woo, I recently met another Annie online, and she has an incredible story that has effected me deeply, so that name has been on my mind... also, you used the word "wondrous".. That same word, which I may never have used before somehow came to me this morning and I used it in an email to my niece who is Matthew's primary advocate.
To add to the woo woo of your comment, I also had visualized what the accident may have looked, felt like. I also visualized Matt in his hospital bed. (Maybe to help it sink in) But I IMMEDIATELY felt a visceral rejection of those thoughts from my body and actually shook my head till I could see him whole again and laughing and in all different stages of his growth. Always smiling and active. So when I read that part of your comment, it was the 3rd rather interesting cross over connection.

I am feel like your presence here is something on a further reaching scale at work. In any event, thank you and I look forward to seeing/reading you again.